In my last post I talked about how to take responsibility for your life. If you missed it then go back and read it, or watch the video below. This post will not help you until you’re happy to take ownership of your own lived experience.
A guy I recently shadowed at work asked me “why are you here?” I scrambled round for an answer, but it was clear to both of us that I wasn’t really there out of my own choice (it was a prescribed part of my annual performance objectives). I was doing it because someone else wanted me to.
It’s the best question I’ve been asked in years – perhaps even my whole life – because it crystallises the importance of only doing things that link directly to your own purpose and values. Once you start doing things just to please other people that’s when you begin to feel lost.
You need to be clear about your own purpose in life. The following exercises are from the book 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey.
Exercise 1 – visualise your own funeral.
Think about how you want to be remembered as a worker, friend, lover, parent or relative. Stephen Covey calls it “beginning with the end in mind”
I want to be remembered for having improved people’s lives. I want to be remembered for being a positive role model, an inspiration. I want to be remembered for my devotion and commitment to my work and the people around me. That’s why I’ve set up this website and my YouTube channel.
Exercise 2 – write out a personal mission statement.
This is a summary of your core values, and how you want to pursue them. It forms the foundations upon which you can build your life. You no longer need to be dragged from pillar to post by the things that happen to you in your life. You can be anchored by your personal mission statement.
My personal mission statement is as follows:
- Proactively nurture relationships with friends, family and colleagues
- Think 10 years ahead and act accordingly
- Get the best from others
- Be open about my thoughts, feelings and pursuits
- Focus my internal dialogue on what will move me forward
These are all challenging rules for me to live by, but I know that they will help me progress in my life.
Take your time with establishing your life purpose. There’s no rush.
Watch my video on the two exercises for figuring out your own life purpose.
So – why are you here? Let me know in the comments below.
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In my next post I’ll be talking about the age old excuse for not doing the things you know you should be doing – “I don’t have time.” So keep an eye out for that.
Until next time, make it happen.